How I Relax Before Bed Time

 

How I Relax Before Bed Time

If you’re anything like me you probably lay in bed at the end of the day and think about every single thing you could possibly think of. Did I lock the doors? Did the pets get fed? Is my alarm set? What’s my schedule look like tomorrow? Ugh, the worst feeling in the world is when your mind just won’t turn off. I’ve found that when I relax a little while before bed I always sleep better. Try settling down and resetting your mind and body with the 5 suggestions listed below. Then make sure you comment at the bottom of the page with any additional tips on how you relax before bed!

  1. Drink a cup of calming tea: My favorite is either dandelion tea or a classic chamomile.
  2. Read a book: Get lost in your favorite book and ignore the stresses of everyday life! Nothing better than distracting yourself and relaxing with a book before bed.
  3. Stay off your phone for at least 30 minutes before bed (and turn off the tv and try reading that book!): This is by far the hardest thing for me to do, and to be completely honest it doesn’t happen every night! But the nights that I do disconnect are the nights I always sleep the best.
  4. Lay in bed with your spouse and just chat: As much as my husband hates it, I absolutely love going upstairs a little early and just laying in bed together. We can talk about our day and just reconnect. And it’s usually the one time I can actually get him to put his phone aside!
  5. Make a list/look over your schedule for the next day: I’ve always found making lists helps me feel less stressed and ready for the day ahead of me. Try writing a list at night and see if it helps you feel a little more relaxed and organized for the next day.
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Relationship Advice: Always Protect Your Spouse

 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”

Ephesians 5:31

This past weekend my eyes were opened to just how much my husband tries to protect me from negativity. I had an experience last Friday night where I was verbally violated by a close guy friend of ours. This man raised his voice at me, was defensive and argumentative, and showed a dominating/misogynistic side that changed my opinion of him forever. But my wonderful, sweet, never hurt a fly of a husband stepped in to save the day. Protecting me, standing up for me, and making sure I was never spoken to in that way again. He hates confrontation with a passion, but when he saw a man treat me that way he went into survival mode. No one was going to treat his wife like that.

I hear so many people tell me “oh, we’re having a long engagement, marriage is just a piece of paper anyways. We’re in no hurry!” And every time I hear that I have to force myself to smile and keep my mouth shut. When Bryan and I stood at that altar in front of friends and family four years ago we vowed to become one, stand beside each other through better or for worse, and leave everything we knew behind us to form a new life together. That includes protecting each other from hurtful people or negative situations. This is something we’ve taken very seriously over the past four years: we help each other through every difficult time. Bryan protects me physically and emotionally in ways I never knew were possible before we got married. I never knew how much trust I could put in another person to take care of me and vice versa; I never realized how much protection I would feel for another person. All of this is so very different from just being someone’s partner or fiance. Becoming a wife changed everything for me.

I think we all need to take a closer look at how we are protecting our spouse. Are we just locking the doors at night and making sure no harm comes to each other? Or are we actively trying to protect each other physically, mentally, and emotionally? From other people, situations, and emotions.

Here are a few suggestions of how you can protect your spouse:

  1. Speak openly about setting boundaries – talk to each other about how you view your marriage and what boundaries you should have. Be open with what you expect from each other and how to deal with other people over stepping the boundaries you’ve put in place.
  2. Stand up for your spouse – I can’t stress this one enough. No matter if you agree with what they are saying or not, always stand up for your spouse if they are in a negative situation. My husband my not always agree with what I’m saying to someone, but the moment I’m treated disrespectfully he always steps in to save the day.
  3. Speak lovingly of each other – Speaking kind words about about your spouse doesn’t only create a positive bond with each other, but it also show’s other people the type of relationship you have. I view it as a kind of repellent to keep other’s from disrespecting my husband. If you hear me praising him and speaking lovingly, then I believe people are more likely to stay in a positive place around you and him. A very easy way to protect your spouse if you’re feeling like you’re in a negative situation somewhere around people!
  4. Pray for their mental, physical, and emotional health – Not much to elaborate on here. Just make a daily effort to pray for their all around health and for protection from anything negative around them. And also pray for your own strength and guidance to continue being a protector of your spouse.
  5. Never let someone disrespect your spouse – Whether you have to physically step in and say something, or just simply grab onto your spouse’s hand to make sure they know you are their supporting them, do not ever let someone disrespect your spouse. Show the world and your spouse that you protect each other and are one being.

How do you protect your spouse? What are other ways we can show each other protection when in public situations? Would love to hear your thoughts below on this topic!

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My Top 3 Binge Worthy Netflix Shows

 

Top 3 Binge Worthy Netflix ShowsIf you’re anything like me and my husband, you’re probably making up excuses on the weekends to stay at home and binge watch your favorite Netflix shows. There’s just something so satisfying about a show releasing the entire season at one time and being able to sit down and watch it for hours! But also so depressing when you spend an entire weekend finishing every episode and then it’s all over…

I think fall and winter are the two perfect seasons to catch up on your favorite shows. The colder weather has me craving a warm night at home with my pets and husband. So go on and stock up on your favorite snacks, cozy up on the couch, and settle in for a weekend at home with these three binge worthy Netflix shows.

1. House of Cards: My absolute favorite show of all time. If you’re looking for something thought-provoking, shocking, and holds your interest for hours then look no further than House of Cards. Kevin Spacey playing the main character was a genius casting decision and he has quickly become one of my favorite actors! Just fair warning, you may become more concerned about our government and politics and might become addicted to Fox News after watching (not saying that’s happened to me or anything…).

2. Narcos: If you don’t mind a little violence and sexuality, Narcos might just be the show for you. It focuses on the incredibly fascinating life of drug cartel Pablo Escobar and the government and police that are trying to bring him down. My husband and I just recently watched the second season in about 4 nights…it’s that good.

3. Marco Polo: For the history obsessed person like me, Marco Polo is the perfect binge watching show. I don’t know how historically accurate the show actually is, but it’s pretty interesting to see an inside look of Marco Polo’s life in China. Oh, and did I mention the actor playing him is kinda cute? Always an added bonus! This series also has a lot of violence and sexuality, but I could look past it pretty easily because of how amazing the show is. Well-made, the acting is amazing, and the story line is super interesting!


Have you seen any of these three shows? Which one is your favorite? What are your favorite Netflix shows to binge watch?

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Top 20 Favorite Fall Date Ideas

20 Fall Date Ideas!

Fall is here and with that means all the pumpkin lattes and apple crisp I can get my hands on! Not really part of my healthy lifestyle, but oh well, a girls gotta splurge sometimes right? My other favorite part of fall you ask? Cozy fall dates at apple orchards and warm coffee shops. Here’s a list of my favorite fall date ideas!

1. Visit an apple orchard.

2. Spend an afternoon together baking things with the apples you picked.

3. Go to your favorite pumpkin patch and pick out pumpkins for the two of you. Then head home for a fun afternoon of carving them! My personal favorite is Barten Pumpkins near New Prague, MN.

4. Try a different coffee shop each Saturday or Sunday morning. I love a cloudy, cool fall morning spent sipping coffee with my love.

5. Take a drive out of town and look at the gorgeous fall colors together. (Bonus points to the spouse that brings along a picnic for a romantic touch)

6. Have a scary movie night. Buy your favorite movie theater snacks and cozy up together.

7. Find a local winery and go for a wine tasting. (Again, bonus points to the spouse that brings along snacks for a picnic in the vineyard!) If you’re looking for a place to go in Minnesota my absolute favorite is Alexis Bailly near Hastings, MN. You will not be disappointed!

8. Take a hike through the fall foliage. Bring your camera along to capture the sweet memories!

9. Take a romantic weekend trip. If you’re in Minnesota our two favorite fall locations are Duluth and Red Wing. Go to Duluth in October when it’s past peak vacation season and it’s cold enough that you want to just huddle up in a cozy hotel room together looking out over Lake Superior. And you’ll definitely want to head to Red Wing when the fall leaves are at their peak colors! The quaint town and surrounding areas are gorgeous that time of year.

10. Head to your favorite restaurant with patio dining and enjoy the last bit of warmth before winter.

11. Enter a 5k together. The perfect outdoor and healthy activity to enjoy as a couple before the cold weather hits!

12. Have a bonfire and snuggle up close.

13. Make it a whole night around the fire with hot dogs, s’mores, and a cup of hot cocoa/cider.

13. Relive your younger days and go to a Friday night high school football game. You’ll have a blast talking memories and snuggled up close to keep warm!

14. Find a local fall festival or Oktoberfest event to attend. I hear New Ulm, MN is the place to go for all things Oktoberfest in my neck of the woods.

15. Make Halloween a date night. Dress up in costumes, have a slow cooked meal prepared, and have fun together handing out candy to the neighborhood kids.

16. Spend a morning together baking pies and deliver them to older couples in your neighborhood in need of a little joy. The couple that gives back together, stays together.

17. Take a day trip and hit up all the small towns in your area. Try local bakeries, coffee shops, and stroll around town together hand in hand. Some of my FAVORITE memories come from days trips with my husband.

18. Create your own brewery tour and try the different fall/pumpkin beers at each stop.

19. Spend a night cuddled up on the couch binge watching your favorite Netflix show.

20. Cook a fall themed dinner together. Soup, warm bread, and apple crisp are a few of our favorites!


Hopefully that gives you enough ideas to have date nights all season long! Comment below with your favorite fall dates. We’re always looking for new things to do and explore during our favorite season!

 

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Relationship Advice: Always Choose Love

 

Marriage Advice: Always Choose Love

A strong relationship requires choosing to love each other even in those moments when you struggle to like each other.

-author unkown

I saw this quote today and it immediately made me smile and think of my own marriage. For some weird reason my husband and I always joke around and say “well, I don’t like you today but I always love you”. Not kidding, pretty much from the time we started dating I would tell him that. Now don’t take me wrong, I’m not married to someone I don’t like at all, but sometimes being in a long term relationship with the same person for seven years can be a bit of a struggle! We know exactly what buttons to push and what things really annoy each other. And you bet we keep doing them!

We both make mistakes and frustrate each other, but at the end of the day our love is always there. We can be in a screaming match and having the biggest fight of our life, but I can still look at my husband and think to myself how much I love him. That’s when you definitely know you’re with the right person. Do I like him much in that moment, no, but our love never fails.

I see people all around me giving up on marriage so easily when things get difficult. The always popular reason of “we just grew apart” or “we just don’t really like each other anymore” really don’t seem like good enough reasons to throw in the towel. Look deep inside yourself and come to terms that not everything is going to be easy. No one has a perfect marriage! But at the end of the day if you can still look at your spouse and say you love them then you know you’re in the right relationship.

Trust me, it’s ok to not like your spouse sometimes. Four years of marriage and here I am enjoying life with my best friend. The person who at times annoys me more than anyone in the world, but at the end of the day when I lay my head on his shoulder and say good night, I’m always comforted knowing that we always choose love above everything else.


Can any of you relate to this quote? How many of you don’t like your spouse at times? Do you always choose love above everything else? Let me know in the comments below!

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